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Money Jedi: Money = Gratitude

Money Jedi: Let’s rock this money thing!

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Thanks for rocking–here’s some money! Pic from TaxCredits at Flickr Commons.

Last week, I wrote about how some of us push money away because, subconsciously, we can’t reconcile having money with being good, happy people. And our subconscious beliefs control what we allow into our lives.

This week, I want to talk about how we can have money and feel like good, happy people.

On the surface, this seems very obvious. I don’t know many people who would seriously say, “Money sucks. I don’t respect people with money and I never want to be one of them.”

But this is what many of us believe.

And while we might not be so direct, that subconscious belief might come out in phrases like, “Look at that rich jerk in his fancy car. What, he thinks the speed limit doesn’t apply to him?” (Because I always drive the speed limit in my ’98 Subaru.) Or, when we can’t pay a bill on time, “Ugh! I hate money!”

That’s the thing about subconscious beliefs. We don’t come out and say them, because we’re not aware of them. (Once we’re aware of them, they become “conscious.”) But all that time, they’re running our lives.

 

One reason money and happiness have trouble coexisting is that we see money as a bribe.

We were taught that we only receive money for hard, unenjoyable work.

But money isn’t a bribe. It’s a “Thank you.” When we pay for something, we’re saying it adds value to our lives.

“You raise the cleverest sea monkeys on the east coast! Thank you.”

“You make such beautiful music for the world to dance to, with lyrics that really speak to me. Thank you.”

“You make awesome coffee, and you let me sit in your coffee house for hours on end so I’m not stuck in my house alone all day with only the clacking of my keyboard for company. Thank you.”

I can’t think of an instance in which money doesn’t equal Thank You. Even if you’re paying off the mob, that money still contains an element of gratitude for them not breaking your hands.

The next time you pay for something, remember that money means Thank You. Think of all the places that money is going. (In my case, it’s going into the cash register to support the coffee shop. Some is going to the barista, some into supplies.)

Start to see your own income as your boss thanking you for your work and your time. Even this gentle shift can make you feel more valued. And feeling more valuable is a big key to getting more money in your life.

 

Value = Happiness

“Who needs that much money?”
– Me, you and everyone we know (probably)

“The purpose of our lives is to add value to the people of this generation, and those that follow.”
— Buckminster Fuller

“Your life is not just about you. It’s also about contributing to others. It’s about living true to your mission and reason for being here on this earth at this time.”
— T. Harv Eker

Do you see how the first quote boxes our minds into thinking that anyone with a lot of money is selfish? It comes from a selfish mindset.

Do you see how the second two quotes align generosity with money? It’s almost like they think we have the responsibility to create value and enrich peoples’ lives.

 

The last time I really, deeply, intensely wished I had more money was when my friend Lara, an independent singer-songwriter, was doing a Kickstarter campaign to create a full-length album. Lara’s music has enriched my life, and I just knew it would enrich every ear that heard it. I wanted to fund her whole project! I funded her as much as I could.

She’s met her Kickstarter goal just a few days later. Surpassed it, actually. You know why? People were thanking her for her music. They were saying, “Thank you, more please!” in a BIG WAY.S

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Congratulations to @LaraRuggles !

Lara is learning to accept money and gratitude for the value her talents bring to the world. She is learning to believe in her own value, and to stand up for it. Good for her! The more she understands her own value, the more she’ll put herself out there–and the more people will value her.

On the other hand, when we don’t feel valued (make money), we can’t extend much value (money) to the world.

Doubting this? The next time you eat out, try saying to your server, “I’m sorry, I can’t tip you, but I really value your service!” See how much your server values that.

Actually, don’t do that. Tip them.

 

Appreciating Rich People (instead of subtly hating them)

“Money can’t make you good or bad. It can only make you more of what you already are.”

– Somebody smarter than me said this.

One of the most memorable, generous, admirable people I’ve ever met is rich. He’s the kind of person who tips 100%. The kind who surprises everyone at dinner by picking up the whole bill. The kind who starts writing a check before I get through describing the charity. He was always generous and kind. But his money sure does bring it out in amazing ways.

When I see him drive up in a fancy car, I think, “He deserves it all. He’s amazing.” But if I didn’t know him? “Rich jerk!”

If you like to eat out, having more money will let you eat out more. (Heh heh…)

If you’re afraid of losing what you have, getting more money will make you more afraid of losing bigger sums.

If you are a generous person, guess what having more money will let you do? Be more generous.

We can cultivate beliefs that rich people are kind and happy, and that money is a good thing. But some of us will have to work at this. In some cases, there’s a lot of subconscious BS we have to work through, but it is very possible to program ourselves to believe certain things.

 

Here’s an exercise from T. Harv Eker’s “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind”:

He suggests mentally congratulating people who have money–or anything else you’d like to have.

Don’t be jealous. Being jealous is basically the belief that there isn’t enough for them and you both. It means you don’t believe in abundance, and that belief will manifest in your life.

But congratulating them expresses a belief in abundance, and starts to ingrain respect for rich people in your mind. (Your mind only wants you to be something you respect, remember?)

 

So practice seeing money as “Thank You.” Practice appreciating people who have it. Do this enough, and it starts to seem like society runs on gratitude instead of money. It’s a good place to start.

And listen to “Don’t Worry.” Lara passed her Kickstarter goal. Take a listen and find out why.

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L. Marrick is a historical fantasy writer and freelance copywriter. She waxes poetic about swords and the Renaissance Faire at her author blog. She looks all professional-like at her copywriting site. She eats too much chocolate and still doesn’t believe downward dog is supposed to be a restful yoga pose. You can connect with her at either of her websites, and follow her on Twitter @LMarrick.


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